tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-215837791265546035.post6090401263452182712..comments2023-10-31T02:51:31.970-07:00Comments on A Freshly Milled Life: On letting babies cry it outErinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11942415229259955664noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-215837791265546035.post-58279185431368252512010-01-02T10:37:37.989-08:002010-01-02T10:37:37.989-08:00I couldn't have said it any better! It irritat...I couldn't have said it any better! It irritates me whenever people tell me to just let him cry it out - let him cry himself to sleep. Um, hello! If he's crying, that means he's trying to tell me something that he needs. How could I ignore that? People always tell me that we're going to spoil him. You cannot spoil a baby. And who cares if we spoil him, he's ours and we feel that the way we're taking care of him works for us. I've had many criticisms from "well-meaning" people give us parenting advice, and I'm so tired of it! Anyway, thank you Erin for this post. At least someone else out there feels the same way we do.Lindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06102362663976429651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-215837791265546035.post-13082471236978178392009-10-31T08:51:34.879-07:002009-10-31T08:51:34.879-07:00I don't think I've ever felt all alone in ...I don't think I've ever felt all alone in the world. My mother was always there for me as a child and my husband and others I love are always there for me as an adult. I certainly don't want my babies to feel all alone in the world! Babies learn to trust those who care for them. If my newborn cries because she is hungry, she stops crying as soon as she is in the nursing position in my arms, before I even pull down my shirt to nurse her. In her few weeks of life, she has learned to trust that I will nurse her when she cries (and usually before). There are so many times that I can't make the world perfect for my babies (in the car seat, when they are teething, etc), why would I make them cry on purpose??? It has been shown that a baby crying alone is physically under a lot more stress than a baby crying in a parent's arms. Those stress hormones affect them for life. My 2 year old is an unusually empathetic child, probably because his needs are met. His emotional need for nurturing and comfort as well as his physical needs.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05647464014543827875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-215837791265546035.post-46351884938830287242009-10-30T17:35:57.943-07:002009-10-30T17:35:57.943-07:00Your argument correctly identifies that babies can...Your argument correctly identifies that babies cannot manipulate because they do not have the higher level thinking skills to do that. It ignores the fact that trust is also a higher level skill that they cannot develop. Babies need to learn how to communicate and how to soothe themselves. As you well know sometimes we are all alone in the world, or at least we feel that way. Finding a real balance somewhere between, "my wants will always be met." and, "no one ever takes care of me." probably benefits them the most.Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02426890980406112020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-215837791265546035.post-37666710491926832562009-10-30T13:03:53.364-07:002009-10-30T13:03:53.364-07:00Crying is communication. The opposite side of this...Crying is communication. The opposite side of this coin is when you adopt a child that never cries...because no one ever came. They don't know how to get their NEEDS met. They don't trust that anyone will take care of them. <br /><br />Who thinks that is better?autumnesfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04519475352289814754noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-215837791265546035.post-39449125885258008452009-10-30T11:01:22.730-07:002009-10-30T11:01:22.730-07:00I absolutely agree.
I don't even know how peo...I absolutely agree.<br /><br />I don't even know how people can think a baby can manipulate someone.<br /><br />Or putting a baby to sleep in her own room just so you can sleep better.<br /><br />I haven't let myself get embroiled in that discussion but I know exactly which one you were talking about.Erinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10195775085642712547noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-215837791265546035.post-28352234107440786762009-10-30T10:52:05.365-07:002009-10-30T10:52:05.365-07:00amen
now why can't i ever say that so well?amen<br />now why can't i ever say that so well?Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05647464014543827875noreply@blogger.com